Other Adult Bereavement

(Mixed losses, including loss of adult parent, loss of adult sibling, loss of friend, neighbor, coworker, etc.)

Our Ten Grief Tips for Adults

Help if you are grieving:

Help for a friend or loved one:

  1. Recognize that grieving happens on its own timeframe.
  2. Find safe places and safe ways to express your feelings.
  3. Give yourself permission to do less.
  4. You don’t need to do this alone.
  5. Honor your loved one in whatever ways feel natural to you.
  6. Don’t immerse yourself in taking care of everybody else.
  7. Learn about grief, especially common themes for your particular kind of loss.
  8. Remember that your body is grieving too.
  9. Allow yourself to enjoy something, even laughter, whenever those moments come.
  10. When you’re ready, start discovering who you are in this new stage of life without the physical presence of your loved one.
  1. Be there.
  2. Listen and … keep listening.
  3. Offer practical, immediate help, especially in the first weeks after the death.
  4. Talk about the loved one who died, and don’t be afraid to use his or her name.
  5. Ask questions from the heart, not the head.
  6. Acknowledge significant days.
  7. Keep the invitations coming.
  8. Be ready for ups and downs.
  9. Accept even the shocking feelings.
  10. Be a friend, not an expert.

© WinterSpring 2012

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What is “Grief Work” Anyway?


“People cope with the loss of a loved one in many different ways. For some, the experience may lead to personal growth, even though it is a difficult and trying time. There is no right or wrong way to cope with the passing of a loved one.”

I like this article on grief and bereavement. Grief work, the path that a mourner walks, is thoughtfully discussed. Did you ever wonder what the difference is between grief, bereavement and mourning? This article explains the differences along with information on some special types such as anticipatory and complicated grief. Although this article is from the Fisher Center for Alzheimer’s Research Foundation, much of the information applies to grief in general.

Give Yourself the Freedom to Grieve in Your Own Way


I really like Dr. Nancy Berns’ article on grieving, especially this quote:  “Treating grief as a disease threatens our freedom to grieve.”  She supports people grieving in their own way and debunks the commonly accepted idea that grief needs to follow five stages:  denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.  At WinterSpring, we’re not afraid to be with loss for as long as it takes people to embrace life again.


Other Local Grief Support Groups

Asante Hospice Bereavement Support, MedfordOR
Bereavement Coordinator:  Donna Stribling
Runs 8-week groups, seasonally; normally daytime
Groups are open to the public and free.
Interested clients call Donna directly at: 541-789-4831

Providence Homecare & Hospice, Medford, OR
Bereavement Coordinator: Susan Cooper
Ongoing daytime bereavement support group(s).
Free and open to the public.
Call for more information:(541) 732-6500

Klamath Hospice, Inc., Klamath Falls, OR
Offers bereavement support, including a local support group free and open to the community. Call main number 1-541-882-2902 to find out more.

Asante Three Rivers Hospice Bereavement Support, Grants PassOR
Bereavement Coordinator:  Donna Stribling
Runs 8-week groups, seasonally; normally daytime
Groups are open to the public and free.
Interested clients call Donna directly at: 541-789-4831


AfterShare-Online Grief Support
A website dedicated to writing as a form of healing with the ability to write privately or share with family members or a therapist.  A forum and other features makes this a unique tool for working through grief.

The Center for Loss and Life Transition, Dr. Alan Wolfelt
Dr. Wolfelt is a nationally recognized expert in grief and loss. Through the Center you can access various articles on grief and loss, purchase books on many different subjects within the field of bereavement, sign up for an e-newsletter, register to attend a workshop with Dr. Wolfelt, and get involved in other ways with a community of people who are grieving the loss of a loved one.

Journeys Through Grief Newsletter Blog
Resources for Coping with Grief, Traumatic Loss and Stress

From their site:  “We live in a culture that disdains grief. Webhealing offers RESOURCES.”  This site offer articles, forums, videos, “In Honor of…” memorials, and links. It is the online home base of Tom Golden, LCSW, author, speaker, psychotherapist in private practice. He’s been working in the field of death and dying for over thirty years and has written at least one book on men’s grief and healing.

Open to Hope Foundation
Non-profit organization and online resource with a special radio program. Focuses on death of a child, parent, spouse, and sibling.  This site has community forums, articles, stories, ideas, suggestions and ways to connect with others who are grieving the loss of a loved one.

What’s Your Grief?
An easy to use and comprehensive grief website with over 250 articles dealing with all aspects of grief and bereavement.  Offers print resources, like pamphlets. For all ages and all kinds of losses.

Our House
“Our House is the most recognized grief support center in California. On-site grief support and interventions are available to schools and businesses throughout the greater Los Angeles area.” Great articles and resources for a variety of losses, including children, teens, adult grief.

Centering Corporation
Wide variety of bereavement areas of focus, including:  National TragediesAdult GriefDeath Of A ChildInfant Loss, Children’s Grief, Pet Loss, Grief resources in SpanishSympathy CardsGrief Digest Magazine

Grief Watch
“A publisher and manufacturer of bereavement books and materials used by families and professionals around the country,” including Tear Soup.  Services include Portland based support groups, a newsletter, online articles for grieving different types of deaths, and faith-based spiritual support.
(503) 281-3697

“Coping with Bereavement”
Grief basics from a national mental health advocacy non-profit organization.
Mental Health America
2000 N. Beauregard Street, 6th Floor Alexandria, VA 22311

Toll free (800) 969-6642

Modern Loss
“Candid Conversation about grief. Beginners welcome.”

From their website:  “GriefShare is a friendly, caring group of people who will walk alongside you through one of life’s most difficult experiences. You don’t have to go through the grieving process alone.” There are local GriefShare groups in many locations across the country as well as ways to connect with other grievers online. GriefShare is a Christian-based organization.

Harvard Medical School handbook:Coping with Grief & Loss: A Guide to Healing
“Compassionate advice for dealing with the loss of a loved one”

Spirit of Resh Foundation
Spirit of Resh Foundation was established in 2012 by Lily Myers Kaplan, after losing three intimate family members in one year, most notably, her sister and brother in law, Lois and Dave. Shattered, she took a year-long sabbatical to allow her grief its full expression.  Her journey gradually gave birth to a memoir called Two Rare Birds: A Legacy of Love in which she describes healing at many levels.”