Our Ten Grief Tips for Adults
Help if you are grieving:
Help for a friend or loved one:
- Recognize that grieving happens on its own timeframe.
- Find safe places and safe ways to express your feelings.
- Give yourself permission to do less.
- You don’t need to do this alone.
- Honor your loved one in whatever ways feel natural to you.
- Don’t immerse yourself in taking care of everybody else.
- Learn about grief, especially common themes for your particular kind of loss.
- Remember that your body is grieving too.
- Allow yourself to enjoy something, even laughter, whenever those moments come.
- When you’re ready, start discovering who you are in this new stage of life without the physical presence of your loved one.
- Be there.
- Listen and … keep listening.
- Offer practical, immediate help, especially in the first weeks after the death.
- Talk about the loved one who died, and don’t be afraid to use his or her name.
- Ask questions from the heart, not the head.
- Acknowledge significant days.
- Keep the invitations coming.
- Be ready for ups and downs.
- Accept even the shocking feelings.
- Be a friend, not an expert.
© WinterSpring 2012
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