Children in grief + group support = Healing

kids with masksWe are starting a new Children’s Program in Ashland…ages 6-12.  If you know a grieving child, call our office.  Here’s what to look for and what to do:

CUES:

  1. Acting out, angry outbursts
  2. Physical reactions—recurring sickness, allergies, stomach aches, headaches
  3. Changes in sleep patterns, nightmares or bad dreams
  4. Regressive Behavior
  5. Obsessive or repetitive behaviors that seem odd in the circumstance
  6. Lack of interest in usual activities
  7. Eating Problems or Disorders
  8. Crying easily
  9. Problems with concentration or focus
  10. Refusal to talk or emotional withdrawal

How to be with them:

  1. Assure them that those helping love them and will keep them safe.
  2. Keep routines consistent, which provides a safe predictable environment
  3. Set reasonable, consistent boundaries to provide a sense of safety
  4. Provide recreation–this enables children to have fun and take a break from grieving
  5. Provide healthy snacks, meals—their bodies are grieving, too.
  6. Care for and accept them as they are
  7. Tell the truth and answer their questions honestly, with age-appropriate words
  8. Help them create memory rituals, talk about the person and recall stories
  9. Acknowledge their loss of focus and interest
  10. Reflect back what they say without judgment, ask them questions as they try to make sense of what happened.